I know what it’s like to feel like giving up on your artistic vision. It seems like the project is taking longer than you thought, peoplewho once loved you and your work seem less excited and disinterested, you’re not sure how you will find the financing to finish a project. Look, I’m not saying this is easy. That is why I started this Elevate the Artist because I wanted to see the transformation of the artist in society. A lot of people talk about artist entrepreneurship and offer services for “creatives” and many of them haven’t lived it. (Side note: what the heck is a creative? Please do not offend my profession (which is a noun) by calling me an adjective.)

Artist entreprenuership cannot be theorized; either you have lived it or you have not. This said, while it is challenging, it can be done and, in this article, I will share one of the core factors that motivated me through the roughest periods of my artist entrepreneurship journey to date. I can tell you that you will get through any difficult season or challenge as long as you decide that you are willing to work through it. And, you must decide to work through it because there is nothing else in the world worth fighting or suffering for more than your artistic purpose.

The first thing to realize is that your artistic purpose is just that: yours. To get back on track and stay there, you have to remember that you are responsible for your future and no one else. Second, celebrate what you have already accomplished. Launching your own artistic careeer based on your own unique vision is bold and exciting. Finding the energy to start your own business and come up with new ideas for artistic products is not nearly as challenging as it is to know exactly how to channel your energy on a monthly, weekly, daily basis. Yes, it is challenging but the long term benefits are worthwhile. Trust me. Third, once you have accepted responsibility for your future and have celebrated yourself, it’s time to flex your proactivity muscles.

To do this we can visit one of my go-to books when I need to get motivated to keep going. The widely read book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey, influences how I use my time and energy every day and it has some keys to success for artists on the journey to entrepreneurship who want to stay focused on the right things, that is, the things that we can control.

You must accept that you failed. Acceptance seems like something that happens automatically, almost as if you have no choice but to do it. This is an inaccurate understanding of acceptance. True acceptance, while it may sound like a passive activity, requires your active involvement to be effective. In fact, if you do not accept your failure you have failed twice. You will most likely continue to fail and this will inevitably lead to the end of your career as an artist.

There are some specific alternatives to acceptance that I see many artists choose: namely avoidance and judgement. I ask you not to avoid acknowledging that something did not go as planned because it is something that we all experience. Judgement is detrimental to your self-perception and your success as an artist. Know that it takes courage and boldness of character to create let alone to set expectations for yourself. If you have expected something that has not yet materialized, realize that that act alone is worth celebrating. You took a risk and you hoped for something better in a world full of hopelessness. Acceptance can be difficult to do especially if you have a community that is watching you fail: family, friends, artist-colleagues. However, in order to persevere you are going to have to accept everything that happens as part of your purpose and part of your journey to success. This is what I do everyday. I accept everything that happens and I ignore the thoughts and opinions of anyone who does not see my work in this way. I call it radical acceptance.

Radical acceptance means that you accept things as they are as if they were meant to be that way. Acceptance of this kind means that we do not hold ourselves hostage to missed deadlines, the perspectives of others about our work, social standards, or anything that compromises our ability to expect a future where we create powerful artistic work. To do this radically means that people, places or things that do not serve your need to live in expectation must go. This mindset does two things: it doesn’t allow you to avoid your current circumstances and it gives you the power to create a strategy from what you have learned by embracing the truth. It’s radical because you are telling yourself that if it is then it is supposed to be.  That powerful thought immediately gives you power over anything that comes your way. To overcome failure you will need to practice radical acceptance. As artists our power to create a new tomorrow is inherently linked to our ability to accept things as they are. Accept where you are without apology or explanation and watch how quickly you find yourself around the right people, winning.

Proactive people focus on the Circle of Influence, these are the things that you can do something about.

Only after you accept failure, can you be empowered to change. The second step to overcoming failure requires taking a new perspective of what failure actually means. A failure is an unmet expectation. It can be seen as a failure. It can also be seen as an experience and experience is the best education. If you are living your purpose, each failure is an indicator of where you need to grow. Having a purpose does not mean that you were born fully prepared to pursue it. A part of your ability to succeed rests on how well you can latch on to the lessons in personal development that failure teaches. Failure means you need to grow in ways that will equip you to succeed. Failures are lessons. Nothing more, nothing less. Viewed this way, you haven’t failed you simply need to refine your expectations with the new information you have learned.

To grow, you need two things: humility and patience. Letting go of expectations means realizing that your purpose is a lifelong pursuit so you must be humble enough to be able to acknowlegde that you set expectations without fully understanding some aspect of that expectation. It then means that once you recognize where you need to grow you take the time to develop these areas.

With this approach we can see that failure is an indication of where you need to work on personal development. Thus, when you fail to meet an expectation you must ask yourself what you can change about yourself to be better equipped to meet your own expectations the next time. This is directly related to acceptance.

• If you accept that you manage money poorly then you know you need to take a course in personal finance.
• If you know that you need to enhance your technology skills then ask a colleague to teach you how to use a new software. You will produce your work with the quality it deserves.

Whatever it is, after you accept failure, embrace the reality that you need to grow. Keep a record of your skills and experience and determine where growth needs to happen when you fail. You’ll get to your destiny and you will begin to meet your expectations more consistently when you are equipping yourself to do so.

We artists do have a way of losing perspective. It’s because we often work in isolation. Because it can be easy to forget how much our work means to our community, finding opportunities to give are essential. Nothing gets us out of ourselves more than serving others. Service is an excellent way to share, connect and take a new view of the world. Service can be simple. My favorite way of serving others is sharing what I know with others. It benefits them to hear my experience and it helps me to reflect on what I’ve been through. Find a way to give and do it regularly. Here are some ideas to get you going in the right direction.

If you thought your music album would be completed by now but it isn’t take a Sunday afternoon and go play at your local homeless shelter and ask the audience: if you could make a song, what story would you tell? If you are an actor or performing artist and you didn’t get the role that you wanted in an upcoming show, go to your local youth center and perform a powerful monologue about powerlessness and share how performing has changed your life. Bring some monologues for them to perform. If you are a playwright, poet or writer, find some cause in your city that matters to you, write about it and send it to a local paper to be published. If you are a filmmaker or digital artist, take your skills to a local school and make a 1 minute film. When you give, when you offer yourself to others you will remember the importance of creation. Service will take you out of your unrealistic expectations and will help you to remember what truly matters.